Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery Paperback – January 23, 2019

As the adult child of a narcissistic father and a mental health therapist, I can say unequivocally this is the most comprehensive, helpful, complete guide to understanding my own upbringing and my healing, and how to work with those who share in this plight. Arabi writes in clear, easy to understand language, and covers aspects of being in relationships with those who are narcissistic, that I have not found in other books. Her guidance on healing and exercises to begin practicing are so helpful and right on the money. I deeply resonate with the material, and I highly recommend it!

I have read a number of books on NPD. While each has its merits, Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists is exceptional. It is probably the most comprehensive book I have read on the subject, and covers narcissist traits, symptoms experienced by Adult Children of Narcissists like myself, and most importantly, exercises for self-growth, unraveling the deep emotional wounds and healing. If you have ever felt alone in your struggle, reading this will change that. There is an entire chapter dedicated to survey responses from those who have experienced narcissist abuse. Can’t recommend this book enough. Thank you to Ms. Arabi for sharing your brilliant work with those of us who have a great need for this material.

I am the son of a narcissistic mother. This book described so well my experiences, and the personality traits on both sides. I've read other books on the subject and while they were good, this is the gem in my opinion. I am working thru the healing ideas now and finding emotional peace. Arabi simply hit home and connected with me.

I have read many books on narcissism and how to heal and grow from being raised in it. Unlike this book, most others tend to be solely opinion based and don't understand nearly the depth of the issue. This book provides not only names to issues, but also steps to overcome those issues. I also appreciate that it is more research based rather than tapping into a difficult topic with no background understanding. I would highly recommend this to anyone who has struggled, or struggles, with this.

I stumbled across this book by chance. And I’m glad. I recommend it to anyone trying to spread their beautiful wings and break free from the false feeling of guilt, shame, self-blame, unworthiness, etc.It might help you understand if the root of your misfortunes and mental burden is hidden deep in your childhood, and learn about your superpowers. Do you have people in your life who instead of lifting you up, downgrade you? Do you feel that you have to constantly prove that you are worthy? Good news—you are worthy! Read the book if that’s your case. It will help you spot the signs of narcissism and give you “the power to observe the toxic actions of others from a detached perspective. When we are allowed to observe the chaos from a place of calm observation, we can then better look for solutions rather than continuing to feed into the problem.”The author highlights the necessity to set healthy boundaries with mentally immature parents, and sometimes even to say “goodbye” to protect your physical, emotional, psychological, and social well-being. I agree with her message to not allow hate and evil thoughts make your heart bitter. Whatever you have been through, be more self-compassionate, and show compassion to others, because God is love, and you are His child, and you must honor what honors God. And this theme is much better covered in the book “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes” by Lysa Terkeurs —I sincerely recommend it!“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.” Christ Jesus, Lord and Savior

I just started reading this book and already I can tell how well written and researched it is. I’m looking forward to reading the whole thing. I wanted to post pictures of the table of contents and the introduction because I thought it would be helpful to others.

I cannot adequately express the extent to which this book continues to positively impact my life. From the first paragraph in the Introduction, I felt as if the author were narrating my life. Although I am an easily distracted reader, I have been able to focus on the content without difficulty because of the way it's organized, the level of detail and explanation, and examples of what one might experience as an adult. This book is giving me:1. The benefit of naming and organizing all of the "stuff" I have been carrying since childhood2. Validation in knowing that I'm not defective, my parent with NPD was3. Reassurance in that I am not the only one with these awful childhood experiences4. The opportunity for healing5. HopeI am definitely pro-therapy/counseling, but this book has done something critical for me that I didn't get or wasn't able to accept through counseling. I now have the perspective I need to shed the cloak of pain, shame, and distorted self-image. I recognize this as a lot of credit for one book. However, the content and presentation are exactly what I needed, and I am so grateful.