Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Thankful for the words of wisdom in this book. Best read before marriage, but it will help anyone with an open mind. Good stuff!

Life can be difficult and if your main relationship is not working smoothly there is hope that it can be way better when you discover two very important facts. This book explains what men and women normally want. There are of course many exceptions!I read this book with a highlighter in hand, then after days of reading I went back through the book reading all the especially important parts. Some of the things I paid attention to included:What are the primary needs of husbands and wives?What is the real goal of marriage?What could instantly save your marriage?Why is obeying God and working hard on your marriage the way to incredible fulfilment and joy?One of the most important things the author mentions includes this statement: "I can experience hurt, but it is my choice to hate." ~ pg. 287What this book helps you do is refocus your efforts and realign with God's will for your life. Mainly the author points to the fact that you are in a situation where pleasing Jesus leads to a more productive and fruitful marriage.I will say that a lot of this book is lol funny and it will also make you cry a few times too.I read this book along with "This is War: Effectively praying for your husband when the enemy attacks" by Dee Johnson. I am confident these two books can change at least a woman's life as frankly what else besides prayer, knowledge and actions can?While reading this book you will realize that God will honor your efforts and help to change you into the person you were made to be. God can help you overcome even the most persistent problems in your marriage. Prayer works!!!!I am living proof that reading marriage books and trying out the advice has kept me married since 1995! There are definite ups and down in a marriage that is going on for nearly 30 years! If you are struggling, keep going because things get better with effort and unconditional love and respect. This book is right about everything! I'm living it!!!!! You will be so grateful to know all this book presents! Give the gift of a happier marriage to yourself this year! You will be so glad you did!~The Rebecca Review, Constantly learning...

For a few years now, I have been looking for a book that has these answers. I have read the main passage of scripture reference to defiance over this book was extremely helpful. I have so many more insights now thank you very much.

My wife and I taught this in our marriage class at church. This book is easy to read and understand. The topics might be hard to discuss for some, but the workbook does a great job at guiding couples along. Something my wife and I enjoy about this book is that it breaks down mainstream societies view on marriage and everything taught is backed up biblically. I highly recommend this book for any couple whether you are happily or unhappily married.

Really great book! It is an eye opener. I wouldn’t advise taking this heart to heart or word for word. I’d use this as a guidance. I love the Bible and research topics that are added. There are many discussions or examples that totally pinpoint my husband and myself. There are also times where it mentions a percentage men blah blah blah and most women blah blah blah but it’s the opposite which help me come to an understanding of why I am react a certain way or why my husband reacts a certain way. This book is mainly geared towards the respect a man needs so although us women can gain a lot of insight sometimes it may feel things that are being said is bias which may be true but like I said use this as a guidance and just ask your mate how they feel about that particular topic. Easy to read and understand. Great gift!

This marriage book doesn't bash either side. Women and men have different needs. According to Dr. Eggerichs, they hear vocal and body language differently. Understanding the difference is the secret behind better communication and "Love & Respect" given one to another. It is sound, down-to-earth information that truly is a NEW perspective. Even men will listen. But this book may work if only one spouse reads and applies what is found.Past marriage suggestions typically push the man to changing his nature and becoming more feminine in response to his love seeking wife. This author points out that God didn't make man feminine, so why should he change? He does offer many suggestions as to how to understand what a wife is searching for and how best to communicate to her needs and feelings. The opposite is true for women. God didn't make women to have more body than mind need, as men. Why try to make one turn into the other? The answer, according to "Love & Respect" is the husband learning to see the woman's need for love needs, and for the wife noting the man's needs and different ways of coping.Thus, mutual understanding is as important as mutual communication. But...communication must be in a form recognized by the spouse. This need-meeting takes into consideration not only Biblical principals, but new scientific brain function evidence. They seem to go hand in hand.This is not simply a Christian approach, although Dr. Eggerichs pulls no punches about his own beliefs and pulls scripture to back many statements. Also the book is endorsed and supported by Dr. Dobson and "Focus on the Family."Having remarried after becoming a widower, I have duel opportunity to look at the legitimacy of what is written. This is solid marriage relationship instruction. Highly recommended, at any age.A PERFECT WEDDING GIFT FOR THE NEW BRIDE & GROOM, any faith.My wife and I love the large print, due to aging eyes, but it also makes the book pages turn faster.Part One: THE CRAZY CYCLE defines the problem of communication between man and female in a new light. No blame, just different.Part Two: THE ENERGIZING CYCLE is the meat. It takes you thorough the female needs of Closeness,Openness,Understanding,Peacemaking,Loyalty,Esteem. Then it looks at the male's needs of Conquest,Hierarchy,Authority,Insight,Relationship,Sexuality."Not wrong, just different." Part 2 may be all you need to read.Part Three: THE REWARDED CYCLE concludes the pink and blue differences and opportunity to improve any marriage, even those not in danger. Includes a generous appendix of things to do together to help your love and respect grow.Also recommended is a set of DVDs with this author presenting the material of this book. Good for groups or couples. Not pricey when you consider the excellent results. The author is quite a humerus, entertaining presenter.A MUST for church, family counselor, and public library shelves.

Great book and amazing price