Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship Paperback – 1 Jan. 2004

Interesting and insightful .. really enjoyed this book it has helped me alter certain behaviours I used to do but seemed to have lost in the minefield that is modern dating.

Really worth a read. I am not into self help books, this is an exception. Bitches is a bit of a misnomer; it's not about being a bitch, it's about not giving up, giving in and being always available, while giving up your own life. That is simply not attractive. If you go to movies on Wednesday night with your girlfriends, keep doing that. The book tells you, in the most hilarous way, to keep your own self and character, when you have a partner. Men can read it too, it is equally applicable the other way around.

Great read

I have been the stereotypical nice girl in this book and the writer is correct, I never received the same kind of treatment back. Prior to buying this book and having gone through a divorce I naturally became more of the 'bitch' and it has to be said that guys do react the way the book says. The term 'bitch' is not used as a nasty term how you might expect, it means confident, non needy woman who knows what she wants and respects herself too much to put a man before her. She will be kind, polite and wonderful but not a doormat who is available at the drop of a hat. It's a good read, with a great deal of truth in it.

I absolutely loved Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl! The author offers practical advice on setting boundaries and maintaining self-respect in relationships, making it an empowering read. Her candid and humorous writing style kept me engaged, and the real-life examples made the concepts relatable and easy to apply. This book has truly transformed my approach to dating, and I highly recommend it to any woman looking to elevate her relationship game!

The media could not be loaded. I bought this amazing book as recommended by Gayle and Oprah but I also bought the dating guide Finding A Guy Like Gilbert which is v different but just as amazing. The latter is more for people who don't like playing games! Please watch my video review to learn why you'll love this books!

I came across this by chance, and, considering all the books I've read over the years on the subject, and becoming increasingly confused on the amount of conflicting information I was getting in the process, I gave this a shot. And, surely 'bitches' is a bit of a strong, not to mention misleading word to use here! Argov insists that it's not meant to be offensive, but...given the advice on offer, I'd say, yes, it is, given the women she describes, and the ethic she is trying to get us to subscribe to, in that we should be more like them! As a female, I would never play a man in order to keep him! Nor would I mother him! Yet, Argov classes us decent women as 'nice girls', whereas, the women who won't do a hand's turn, or refuse to meet a man halfway, are revered as Gods, and it is the anathema of the kind of woman I would want to be! While I appreciate that no woman should let a man take advantage of them, or take them for granted, by the same token, to be out and out mean and manipulative, all coy and vague, is not on! Nobody deserves that! A good man knows what he wants, and if you have to resort to all sorts of trickery to keep a man interested, then, that's too much like hard work for me, and others like me! If a man isn't interested in you, you can't force his hand! I think, somewhere in between doormat and dreamgirl, there are fine, upstanding females among us who, on the one hand, won't be taken advantage of, but who won't be all vague and unavailable! I've known a couple of textbook bitches and, to my knowledge, they are horrors! And yet men can't get enough of them! I certainly couldn't respect a man who fell for a bunny boiler, or a broken toy, depending on which term you feel more at home with It's one thing to be assertive, and another to play aman like a baby grand! I couldn't live with myself if I did that! It's not all bad though, there's some excellent advice in it, but only applicable when dealing with men who think it's all right to have a healthy appetite, so long as they eat their dinner at home! But, if you want to bag a normal, this might not be the best route! However, Jeff Mac's Manslations is pretty good! I've reviewed this book too, and it's invaluable if you want to understand the male psyche a bit better! By reading Manslations, it's three days of your life you won't get back, but, it's time well spent!

This book has genuinely given me so much clarity on my relationships and why they followed the same pattern. My life so far... I meet a man, like him, he likes me, everything is great. The feelings start to grow, I begin to care. I begin to give him everything - spend all my spare time with him, cook for him, wash his clothes. If he is moody, or stroppy I make excuses for him, I ask him what's wrong. I try to make it better with kindness. He always knows where I am and what to expect. I think about him while I'm at work. (This is making me cringe). And, as I now know after reading this great book, he starts to take me for granted, stops making an effort; the sex becomes dull or less frequent. By this stage I'm in deep, and will do anything to make him happy, at the expense of my own happiness. I MUST HAVE BEEN OUT OF MY MIND!!! The revelation is - men WANT a woman to keep her own life and interests. They WANT to work for you, to feel like, in you, they have a valued prize. Most men begin to disrespect a woman who puts his happiness before her own. Two weeks after reading this, I can't believe that I didn't already know this - but my relationship history tells a different story! I used to think that being nice, putting others before yourself was a good thing. The trouble is, people - not just men - don't respect this behaviour - they see it as weakness. Girls - make him work for you - you'll both be happier as a result.